I Bear Witness: How I came to Islam, Part 2

Written by Theresa Corbin

Part 1 here

Where did I leave off? Oh yes … So there I was, dying from vampire Lestat’s bite only to be reborn as eternal evil. Oh wait, that’s a different story.

Eh hem, so there I was, feeling like I had been lied to my whole life, trying to cling desperately to my culture and simultaneously trying to figure out what the truth really was. I was confused, embittered, and lost.


I believed in God, I just didn’t know what was the correct path to Him. I alternated between ignoring the question, flipping the question off, and seeking answers.

Now that I think about it, I had turned my culture into my new religion. To be the best worshiper at the altar of culture, I never wanted to miss a party, but wished I could just yell at all those kids and tell them to turn their racket down. I looked for answers in the holy books of Vogue and InStyle, but really wished I wouldn’t be considered a freak if I read and talked about Anna Karenina.

I was a hot mess, as the saying goes.

My culture was making me miserable. And my roommate was suffering most of its brunt. She spent much of her time studying other religions and talking to people of different faiths, allowing me to tag along from time to time. After much thought and deliberation, she converted to Islam.

I cannot say how she came to this decision. By this point, my mother had passed away, and I was busy with my grief and self-pity.

I had become a capital A-hole, challenging my newly Muslim roommate’s every move. I had all the cultural perceptions of Islam that can be expected. I don’t even know from where I picked them up. I knew nothing of the religion besides it being something that was “backwards” and tried to take women’s rights away from them. And I knew I was not down with that.

Our dorm room discussion became episode after episode of When Corbins (that’s me) Attack.

rejecting islam makes you angryI accosted her when she decided to wear the headscarf. “Why do you wear that?” I asked as snide as I could be.

And she answered calmly and simply. “So, that I can be recognized as a believing woman. So that I can say who sees what of my body and am not a victim of the male gaze.”

I not only heard what she said, I saw it in action. I didn’t feel more liberate with less clothing. I felt picked apart and judged, and more often than not I felt like prey.

I longed for the respect that I saw my newly Muslim friend and other Muslim women receive from men as they wore their long and loose clothing. The thought of being in control over who would see me was very appealing.

“Yeah, but women are like second class citizens in your faith,” I spat on another occasion, trying to distance myself from my growing affection for Islam.

She explained that during a time when the Western world treated women like property, Islam taught that men and women were equal in the eyes of God. Islam brought more honor to the mother than the father. It made the woman’s consent to marriage mandatory, a practice that would have been laughed at in the Western world at the time.

Islam gave women the right to own property and businesses. And if a woman were to marry, she would not have to share her wealth with her husband. Islam gave women the right to inherit, unheard of in its day. She listed right after right that women in Islam held nearly 1250 years before women’s lib became a thing.

And these were just a fraction of the conversations we shared about Islam as a way of life. I continued to search. At some point, I thought about Judaism. It was the original monotheism. Since I wanted to get back to the original religion, this seemed logical to me.

When I voiced my Jewish aspirations to my roommate, we talked at length about the prophets of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. She explained to me the Islamic belief in all the prophets of Judaism, Christianity, and then the last prophet who came with the same message as all the rest–Muhammad (PBUH).

Prophet after prophet came until the last prophet Muhammad (PBUT) came with the same message to guide mankind back to the truth one last time. “And to this day his sayings can be verified in chains of narration and the Quran has not been changed by man.” She said.

When I heard, I believed. I had asked God when I was a seven year old in Catholic school and learning about prophet Noah (PBUH) if He should send any more prophets that He would guide me to believe in them. I believe that God granted me this mercy, because it was not until this conversation that it all clicked.

I became less angry about my friend’s new religion and began to listen about all the things she was learning as a Muslim. My next question was “What does it mean to be a Muslim?” I met other Muslim women and questioned them about their faith and read for myself.

What I found out was that in belief I was already a Muslim. I believed in the oneness of God. I believed in the prophets up to and including Muhammad. I believed in the angels, and Divine will, the day of judgement, the holy books, and all that jazz.

But—and this is a big but—I was scared to abandon my culture (turns out I didn’t have to abandon the good things from my culture). I was afraid of receiving the same ridicule I had dished out to my friend.

Islam made sense and even spoke to my nature. But I rebelled and the more I refused Islam and chose my culture over it the more miserable I became. I would find myself weeping for no other reason than the increasing emptiness I felt as I continued to reject Islam and replace it with culture. My health began to fail. I lost my scholarship at school. My personal safety was compromised. I even became homeless.

I defied until I couldn’t go on. I finally admitted, like the most homophobic person who finally comes out of the closet, that I was a Muslim. I finally said the words “I bear witness that there is no God worthy of worship but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and messenger” on the first day of Ramadan 2001.

And what I have learned since has taught me that I never had to give up my American culture entirely. I learned that fearing ridicule from people will only make you a joke. And I learned that their is an amazing peace that comes with being obedient to no one but the One God, the One who created you and designed you to do just that.


Follow us (upper right of the page). Email us ( Like our face with your face on Facebook ( Pin with us ( Follow us on twitter (@islamwich).

Like the post, share it, pin it, comment on it, and/or do whatever social media magic it is that you prefer. Find out more about us in the understandably named “About Us” page and browse other posts in “Table of Contents”.


8 thoughts on “I Bear Witness: How I came to Islam, Part 2

  1. Mashallah sister, this is truly a beautiful n touching story u hv shared. Allah is truly merciful and wise. It’s very humbling isn’t it, when we put on the hijab as a way of firstly obeying Allah, n knowing with the hijab we are no longer slaves to the media-projected idea of beauty but we are now slaves of the Al Mighty and that is the true liberation.


  2. You got that right! It is truly devastating to be a slave to anything other than the most merciful. I am so thankful that I was guided to Islam. Sometimes I feel like a tree that will grow crooked without the trellis of Islam to keep me straight. My non-Muslim family has even said that Islam has made me a better person! Jzk sister or reading and for what you do on your blog. May Allah guide us and strengthen us.


  3. Cliff hanger! Damn. Really enjoyed this.:-) mashallah.

    It was very fascinating to understand the tension with the sense or belief that you might ‘lose’ your culture. I think that is the greatest fear. (My understanding is you don’t lose your culture necessarily – although you may drop a certain lifestyle… right?)

    Your depiction of what popular culture is or has become is vivid.

    I’m looking forward to a Part 3, inshallah.

    Oh and i have a bone to pick with you. I take serious offense when you said: “the personality of a sarcastic, cranky, old man,” Particularly with the most offending word, ‘personality’… I think you meant ‘character’! Lol 😉


    1. Yes, a cliff hanger (in the sense that life isn’t over yet), but not really. I have told (a small part) of the story of how I came to bear witness and came into Islam. The rest is how I came to learn and practice and find my path and place and a balance in Islam. So maybe a serious on Being Muslim?

      I am not sure if anyone can ever entirely lose their culture. But for the most part I try to measure every aspect of my culture against the haram and halal. I think this is something everyone should do, Muslim or non-Muslim. Cultural relativism is a dangerous and destructive disease. But I will spare you my soap box rant on that issue … for now.

      I may have misstated, my personality traits have always includes seriousness, introversion, and introspection, (sometimes leading to dark and dangerous sarcasm and crankiness). I have never been interested in the shenanigans of youths and for that I have much respect for the cranky old men of this world.

      But, as it has been explained to me, we are far more in control of our character. Can I be kind instead of cranky (character traits) even when I am serious and introverted (personality traits)? Can we control our predisposition for better character? Yes, so I guess you are right. This is some good food for thought. I would be interested to know how you view the differences between character and personality.


      1. asa Corbin. You may have misunderstood (?) that I was joking about my ‘complaint’. Everything you said in your post was perfect. 🙂

        I understand ‘personality’ to be that flighty, egotistical, superficial outer garb of an identity. (Hence the ‘personality culture’ to me speaks of the world of entertainers and show-business… fake) ‘Character’ I understand to be that real, fuller, more authentic being – that is ‘us’ – who we truly are.

        Keep writing. Yours has character ;-). ws


      2. I thought you might be joking (because obviously I am perfect–major LOL), but the differentiation interested me. I guess I looked at it on a more clinical level. 🙂 Thanks for reading and the encouragement. It is truly an honor.


Commenting was a privilege that the trolls have ruined it for everyone. No more comments accepted. Buh-bye

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s